While at a beach in Subic, i saw two children, a boy and a girl, seated side by side on the seashore, oblivious of everything else. As if they were in their own private world. Watching the waves playing on the water's surface. Peace was on their faces. Probably, contentment and happiness in their young hearts.
I remembered my first boyish love. I think it's what they call "puppy love." She came into the classroom dressed in black, her schoolbag in one hand and a black umbrella perched on her bent lower arm of the other. She was a vision before my eyes. I couldn't take my eyes off her as the teacher welcomed our new classmate who suddenly joined us a few months after school started. Her doe eyes spoke of sadness but her regal demeanor made her so intriguing. Her pilot-father died in a plane crash and the family decided to move back to the hometown. She became my first crush and I would take all efforts to see her even on weekends, asking my playmates to go with me to play near her house hoping to see a glimpse of her. This continued until I was in college, always finding a reason to see her. Sometimes our eyes would meet. Or sometimes, I get to dance with her and I can feel the warmth of her hands. But I never gathered enough guts to tell her what I felt. Even if I could see in her eyes that I had a good chance if I did.
Each one of us nurse a secret wish. Sometimes, something that seemed impossible to accomplish but still the yearning stays. Motivating us to do a lot of things - making us achieve even things other than that secret wish. In the end we say to ourselves that it was not meant to be. So we pursue other loves until we finally settle down with one that we can love forever. And the first love remains a dream but not forgotten.
In childhood, we built a lot of dreams. Not useless dreams because they made us move later in directions we wanted and oftentimes, to other areas undreamed of. We hitched our wagons to these dreams and found a lot of things along the way. In the process we got to learn more about life, love and relationships.
New findings in psychology shows that our reality starts in our dreams. The adage "to see is to believe" is now replaced with "what you see is what you'll be." What we visualize in our dreams becomes our reality because our actions will tend toward achieving our dreams. This concept is used in training athletes (mental conditioning). The more we dream about it, the more we believe it and so, the more it becomes reality.
Let's take our dreams seriously and see where they will lead us.
